Tuesday, May 4, 2010


"One of the most exciting things I've discovered as a result of lecturing and leading workshops all over the country is that we're always teaching others what we most need to learn.  Sometimes we tell other people what they need to do as a way of reminding ourselves of what we need to do.  For example, I often hear myself reminding people in my audiences about the importance of taking time off to care for themselves - advice I could definitely benefit from taking!"

- Debbie Ford - "The Best Year of Your Life"

I have been working through her "The Best Year of Your Life" kit.  She has some pretty insightful advice and I have found it useful; releasing and powerful.  This week's assignment is to Take Your Own Advice:

For the next week, observe the advice you give to other people.  What do you suggest that those around you do to better their lives?  Do you encourage them to speak out?  To set stronger boundaries?  To be less concerned with what others think?  This week, as you give advice to others, notice if you could benefit from a little dose of your own medicine, and take whatever steps or actions you've recommended for them.  If you don't normally give advice to others, think about someone you'd like to give advice to.  What would you like to say?  now seeif this advice applies to you.

Give yourself 50 points every tme you take your own advice.

As a mother, we give advice all the time to our children.  As a sister we give advice to our siblings.  As a wife we give advice to our husbands.  As a friend we give advice to our friends.  Often what we observe in others is also a blind observance of ourselves.  Are we truly in a place to give advice?  Do we do those things that we think others should be doing?  I think about this a lot.  Especially when it comes to my children.  Do they see me doing those things that I counsel them to do?


Anonymous said...

Is that like the "do unto others" idea? Hee hee.. "Give advice to others that you would yourself take."
I often try not to give advice. I figure if people don't ask for it, there's no point.

Trillium said...

Only three kinds of people have the assignment to give others advice...
Hence, the Miss Manners response to advice-givers:
Are you Miss Manners (#1)? Are you my Mother (#2)? Are you God (#3)? If the answer to each of these questions is "no" they don't have permission to give advice!